“I don’t write tweets….I write LIFE.”
This is what R&B singer and actor, Tyrese, tweeted about 3 months ago that resonated with me. He was referring to his next upcoming book, Manology, he and Reverend Run are co-writing together. I became an admirer of Tyrese ever since I read his first book “How To Get Out Of Your Own Way“(which I strongly recommend). It became automatically apparent, how much substance this man has! I kid you not, my indifference or (admittedly) my ignorance towards him slowly changed with each turned page and had me re-evaluating my life and the people in it. But that’s another topic for another day…
Have you ever had people tell you that you need to “express yourself”? Aren’t they annoying?! Contrary to popular belief, it wasn’t out of fear that I didn’t “express” myself to people, but more out of lack of desire. I just didn’t want to because I didn’t feel the need to – it was just as simple as that for me. Why? Because I already had my own outlet for expression and I didn’t want an audience. Most people act like verbal communication is the only important form of expression out there when it is not. There is a time and place for everything.
Maybe you can relate, but I find it comforting and so much easier to write from my heart than verbalizing everything that comes to my head. (Which, by the way, has always been a struggle because my brain seems to always move faster than my mouth). It always seem to make more sense when thoughts, feelings, or ideas are seen on paper. Therefore, it was no surprise that I was always reading books and writing in my diary about every good or bad thing that affected or left an impression on me. It played a major roll in understanding myself and helped me develop the thick skin needed in this sometimes harsh world; not to mention the ability to accept and love myself regardless of my shortcomings.
It’s a good thing when you learn to love yourself early on. And if you understand exactly who you are and know who you want to be, then you’re way ahead of the who-am-I life path. (Trust me when I tell you, it’s hard for anyone to attack your character and affect your esteem when you’ve learned to love who you truly are). You will never be caught off guard by some insensitive jerk face who happens to take pleasure in using your flaws against you. I’m digressing again…
The beauty behind expressions is that there are more than one way of styling oneself. It’s human nature to want to find a form of expression that relates to you; where you feel more like your stylistic self. No one should tell you what or how you should express yourself. If art is your thing then paint, draw or sculpt your heart out! If you music is your thing, then compose, sing or play your heart out! If literacy is your thing, then write and read your freaking heart out!
Not sure if it’s lucid to anyone else, but the point I’m attempting to make is that there’s so many other significant forms of expression to include on this platform – besides style and fashion. Don’t get it twisted, the feeling I get from being able to write about all things relating to fashion and style is a personal dream come true. But it isn’t enough and it isn’t everything.
If Food 4 Thought Series benefits no one else, at least this part of my blog will keep challenging and motivating me to express more (i.e. write, think, speak, share, create, etc.) about life, love, relationships, and everything else in between. If my expressive thoughts inspires only one person, then I would have succeeded in my purpose. That’s the place I’m striving to be in now; where I’m expressing more of what matters to me and where inspiration and self-expression is recognized, felt and received by my readers.
I have to be honest, this will be one of biggest challenge I’m choosing to embark on in 2012. I have always been cautious about sharing personal thoughts and experiences with people I’ve never met, but I think, I’m now ready to man up. Ha! I don’t even know where this idea came from, call it courage, change, growth, or maybe (now thinking about it) it’s the comfort-ability I’m feeling now more than ever. Whatever. I won’t question it, I just accept it.
P.S. This is totally random, but for sheer entertainment, I decided to replaced one little word so that it can fit a new life mantra I’m trying on:
I don’t write stories…I write LIFE.
How do you like that? I might not write stories or novels (well, at least not yet), but I’ll always express from my heart. I can guarantee that much :) Feel free to let me know what’s on your mind too, I love connecting with intelligent, expressive individuals!